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THE CAD OR THE DAD? WHICH DO WE PREFER?
Rachel, darlin’, thanks for having
me on your blog today. I always enjoy chatting with your readers. So, let’s hop
right into the topic of discussion, shall we? I’m going to talk about types of
men…oh, and aren’t they such delicious creatures?
But what kind of men do we prefer?
I was alone for ten years after my
divorce. I had a lot of time to think about what I desired in a mate. After
all, the first attempt hadn’t worked out so well, so I was fifty-nine shades
beyond apprehensive about getting involved with another man. Slowly, over the
years, I composed a male shopping list.
Dare I share?
I wanted an intelligent man,
humorous, sharing the same belief system as I, family oriented, conservative in
his spending habits, loyal (spelled: faithful),
someone who loved to read and who enjoyed spending time with me. I wanted him
tall, broad shouldered, able to quote Shakespeare in the shower and hung like
John Wayne’s horse. Not a bad list. Right?
This time around, I was going for
the “dad.” I’d already had the “cad.” You know the type. Dangerous. Dark.
Deadly good looks. They’re full of sweet promises, smooth moves and sensual
talent. But, they can’t stick…to a job, to one woman, to their promises.
Calvin, my husband, and I often
talk about women who prefer the cad over the dad. The dangerous dude who knows
how to charm or sham a woman. While the nice guy, the one who lives up to his
responsibilities, is often ignored by the woman he’s pursuing. I suppose this
is uppermost in my mind right now. My son, a teacher and musician with two
Masters degrees, was tossed aside by his wife for a guy who hasn’t worked in
two years. I can’t grasp it. She’s beautiful, educated and vice president of
one of the largest banks in the world. So, why?
Why did she choose the cad over
the dad?
Calvin says the element of danger
turns women on. I can get that. We all like the excitement of it. But does it
overrule our common sense?
My younger son lives by a creed.
One he’s trying to pound into my recently divorced son’s head. “If you want a
woman to stick with you, treat a lady like a slut and a slut like a lady.
Either way, the woman will fall all over you.”
Surely this isn’t so.
In my novella, BACK WHERE YOU
BELONG, Tyler Desmond is a dad—a single dad with a thirteen-year old daughter.
He’s more than a little wary about getting involved again.
Here’s the blurb:
While shooting pool at the Lonesome Steer Honky
Tonk, rancher Tyler Desmond takes an errant dart in the neck. Ready to
retaliate, he’s instead captivated by the blonde who threw it. Tyler isn’t
interested in opening his heart, so why does he kiss the verbal buzz saw? Just
to shut her up?
As a teenager, Lacy LaRoche had a secret crush
on Tyler. When the dart brings them face-to-face, all she can do is
chatter—until he kisses her. But Lacy didn’t come back to Texas to fall in
love. She’s hiding another secret: her roommate surreptitiously videotaped Lacy
undressing and posted it on the internet.
When Tyler’s daughter is bullied at school, Lacy
must reveal the truth and face the emotional damage of cyberbullying.
Over-protective of his daughter—and his heart—Tyler must learn to trust again.
Can two scarred hearts find their way back to where they belong?
An Excerpt:
When Tyler found her a couple
minutes later, she was standing at the vanity in the bathroom, holding a tube
of Neosporin and crying. Oh, crap, more
embarrassment.
“Hey.” He turned her and
enveloped her in his arms. “What’s all this about? Don’t cry.”
She pulled back and gazed at
him. “I…I’m sorry I hurt you. I wanted this morning to be perfect.”
“Ain’t nothing perfect. Take
us, for instance. Since you stepped back into my life, I’ve been stabbed with a
dart, pole-axed by a kiss, peed on and burnt.”
“I don’t know why I’m like this
around you. I don’t like it one bit.”
“I’m not overly fond of it
either.” He took the tube from her hand and removed the cap. “When my ex-wife
left me, I swore I was through with women. Nothing but pain comes from them.”
He rubbed ointment over his burn as he talked. “Pain and a quick grope under
the table.” He smirked when he handed her back the Neosporin.
“Now, that was a mistake, just
like all the other things that’s happened.”
His eyes twinkled and he
chuckled. “You’re like a walking blonde catastrophe. I figure you owe me.”
“What? What do I owe you?”
He took her chin between his
thumb and fingers and drew her face closer. “A kiss. One that will right my
world again, ‘cause it’s been out of kilter since the first one at the Lonesome
Steer. I’m beginning to think that dart had some kind of poison on it to put me
under your spell.”
“That’s nonsense.”
His gentle kisses over her eyes
and cheeks erased her tears.
“No more crying, only smiles.
You’ve got a smile that warms my heart.”
“I do?” No one had ever told
her that before.
Large hands settled at her
waist, and little by little he inclined his head to hers, his voice barely a
whisper. “Oh, yeah.” Then his lips made contact and nuked every cell of her
being.
Oh.
My. God.
Vonnie loves to chat! Comments??
Nice Blog!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing please keep sharing more :-)
50 Shades Movie
Thanks, Rosalie. Most writers like to talk...perhaps too much at times.
ReplyDeleteGreat post Vonnie, we all like a little bit of a bad boy, if only they grew up when the woman did.
ReplyDeleteLove the excerpt!
Thanks, Mary. Sadly some men don't grow up in a few areas and they don't seem to care who they hurt in the process of their living their lives their way.
DeleteEnjoyed the post, Vonnie. I vote for a combo of the dad and cad - someone who is responsible but still knows that life is too short to worry. Is there such a man?
ReplyDeleteI hope, Ashantay. My youngest, the one with the wild concept of how to snare a women, is like that. He's married now and has changed his views on how to treat his lady. They travel a lot and are always up to something...and both pamper the other. But many are one way or the other. Very few are a nice blend.
DeleteHi Vonnie,
ReplyDeleteGreat blog. Women are strange creatures when it comes to chosing men. I write about ruthless, dark and tortured heroes, but in real life I went for a trustworthy, honest and hard working man, and never regretted it.
cheers
Margaret
I like the idea of making a male shopping list. Though divorce is rampant, it's still bad to know that marriages are ruined and children are hurt. May I ask what happened between you and your ex-hubby? Was it about his attitude or habits that you decided to end up with divorce?
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