Becoming a mum is hard at the best of times, all that worrying about such insignificant things, the lack of sleep, fear of dropping the baby, constantly asking yourself, ‘am I doing it right?’ It’s the most magical of times, you’ve created a person and you can’t take your eyes off that precious bundle, but at the same time it’s terrifying!
For a teenage mum it’s even harder, you’re desperate to prove that you can do it and that you’re not a waste of space, like a lot of people think young mums are. I used to be paranoid that old ladies were looking at me, pushing my baby in his pram, thinking, ‘look at her with that baby, he’ll end up mugging old ladies!’ Madness I know, but I felt everyone was judging me because of my age.
Almost twelve years ago, at just nineteen years old, I gave birth to a little boy, Oliver, and I’ll never forget the terrifying moment when hubs and I brought him home from hospital, put him down on the floor in his car seat and looked at each other and said, ‘well, what do we do now?’ We honestly didn’t have a clue, we were both so young and inexperienced and I still can’t believe the midwives let us take this tiny creature home with us!
The second time round, two years later, was so different, we just got on with it and two years after baby number two, when we were mad enough to do it a third time, we had this parenting lark down to a fine art.
Those first few days at home with Oliver were a scary haze of desperately trying to breast feed this baby that kept falling asleep, dirty nappies and no sleep for either of us. The breast feeding with Oliver was a complete disaster, but because I was a ‘teenage mum’ I was determined to do everything right, which meant feeding him myself - I was adamant it was the best thing for him!
I think I managed a week before the lack of sleep and exhaustion took its toll on me and my family talked me into giving him a bottle. The difference that bottle made on my son was amazing, for the first time, since he entered the world, he was content, daddy was happy because it meant he could do something other than change dirty nappies and it meant I could catch up on some much needed sleep. But, the guilt started nagging away at me, I felt like a failure, I had one job to do and that was to give my baby the best start I could and I gave up at the first hurdle and proving to be what the general consensus of the world considered a ‘teenage mum’
When I look back now, I realise how ridiculous I was. I don’t think there is any perfect age to become a mum, mum’s in their thirty’s and forty’s get it wrong too, parenting is hard at the best of times, no matter how old you are, but when I look at Oliver now, at almost twelve, I know we got it right with him, despite the fact I was so young when he was born. He’s healthy, polite, caring and considerate. He’s bright, doing extremely well at school and is popular. Every day I look at him and feel proud that I have managed to keep him alive for nearly twelve years - how, I don’t know? It’s actually quite amazing, especially when I think back to how neither of us had a clue - but we did it, and I’m quite proud of him - and us!
If I could go back in time and not become a mum so young, I wouldn’t! Becoming a mum was the best thing that happened to me, just like Katie, in That Girl, my new book. She became a mum at just fifteen years old, but she describes having her daughter, Hollie, as the best thing that ever happened to her and that she couldn’t be without her, and that is exactly how I feel about Oliver, I had to give up going out with my friends, girlie holidays and even training to be a nurse, which is what I’d always wanted to do, but I’ve loved every second I’ve had with my three children and there is not one moment I would change!
As long as your child is happy, healthy and loved, it doesn’t matter what age you are!
By author: Rachel Strong
After serving half of a three-year prison sentence, James is out and ready to try and get his life back on track, which means forgetting about the girl who sent him to prison in the first place - despite the fact he’s still in love with her!
Katie knows that she can’t see James, but that doesn’t make it any easier. If she does it could send him straight back to prison, but, she still loves him and is desperate to make things right and tell him how sorry she is for ruining his life.
After accidently bumping into each other, James and Katie can’t stay away from one another and so begin to see each other in secret. After a slight wobble on James’s part, when he decides he can’t take the risk of going back to prison, Katie decides enough is enough and it really is time to move on and put James behind her.
Heartbroken, James decides to try and get his life in order. But due to his conviction it’s not as straightforward as he would like, leaving him miserable and despairing at what his life has become.
When a job opportunity comes up hundreds of miles away he doesn’t hesitate to head south and put his troubles behind him.
Can James and Katie forget each other and move on with their lives without one another?
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About the Author:
Rachel Strong is a romance author and lives in Lancashire, England, with her husband, three children and little dog Daisy. Rachel works part time as a Health Care Assistant at her local hospital, but her real passion is writing.
Ever since she can remember, Rachel has been writing stories but didn’t really take it seriously until summer 2012 when her husband discovered one of her stories, read it and convinced her that it was good. She loves writing and creating characters, sometimes a whole day can pass her by, just sitting at her laptop, typing away.
When she’s not writing, Rachel loves to read slushy romance novels, chick-lit and a good thriller. When she finds a spare moment she will be found curled up on the sofa with her nose in a book.
Rachel’s debut novel ‘Complicated Love’ is out now with her second novel ‘That Girl’ is due to be released this coming June.
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